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How did you reach your decision? Good luck to you. I am sorry for your loss. I have been part of the family for 9 years and have 10 nieces and nephews, they will continue to be a part of my life for the rest of it.

He seems a wonderful guy- attentive, hardworking, passionate, funny and eager to travel to meet me. I was 47 when he prime away. The subject who is truly loyal to the Chief Magistrate will neither advise nor submit to arbitrary measures. But they will express them when the feelings are strong enough. Which is not a long time. Well, get out there. My husband had limbo for 2 years terminal and I cried so many nights. But we are proof that you simply cannot plan life - or choose who you fall in love with, or when. Regardless, my thoughts are with you as you cope with your own grief. We all jesus he was widowers dating too soon and obviously would have vetoed it had he asked usbut looking back at it 20 years later, I can see that it was the best thing that could have happened to him — and they are indeed still very happily married to this day.

And not for anything special — just asking him to bring the laundry upstairs. I question the chemistry here. Some widows choose to date again, while others remain perfectly content doing their own thing on their own.

How to Date a Newly Widowed Man - Six months later she divorced this man who had taken all her money.

I was not looking for anyone and had no intentions of dating for at least a year. It caught me off guard when I realized I was interested in this man. I enjoy our conversations and spending time with him. He's very respectful of my life and memories with my hubby. He undestands that I am still greiving. He makes me laugh and is showing me that life really can be good again. We are not intimate and are taking things slow. It feels right to me, because I know what I lived through during my husband's 14 months battle with colon cancer. I know the conversations my hubby and I had about me moving on with my life. I want to live and I refuse to let cancer steal any more time from me and my daughter. I went to my in-laws first, after my daughter and we had a great talk and cried and they gave me their blessing. Most people have been very supportive, but there are a few who are VERY upset with me. How do I handle them? I am trying to be very discreet about it because I do know I am being judged and talked about, but I knew that would be the case when I made the decision to go out with this new man. It's just not enough time to grieve. Give yourself some time to get over your husband. If this man is all that you say he will wait until it's been a year or more. I tried dating at one year and I had one date and that was it. Now at 2 years and 3 months I am thinking about it. It may be a long think... Let me tell you a story about a good friend of mine. Her husband passed of a massive heart attack about 15 years ago. Shortly after the funeral a man started calling her and she was flattered. Six months after he died she married this man. Six months later she divorced this man who had taken all her money. Not only that but she was no longer eligible for her husband's military benefits because she remarried. Some men not all will try to take advantage of a widow. That's why I said be careful!!!! It is entirely your decision what you do with your life. If you are comfortable with it, so be it. I can't give you a timeline as to when or how long to wait, if that is what you choose to do. Some widows choose to date again, while others remain perfectly content doing their own thing on their own. There is no wrong or right. It comes down to what you want, period. You are definitely not through all the stages of grieivng. You will never get over losing your husband but you will get through it and will have room for someone new in your heart. Time is a great healer. If this man can be understanding of your grief and give you time to heal I think that it great. Perhaps he would be willing to do a bit of research on the grieivng process. My advise is to take things slow. There will need to be a lot of communication between the two of you. Grief is a difficult thing but necessary and it will have its way. My advise would be to eventually go to bereavement recovery classes. You may not realize it but this man may be a distraction to the grieving you still need to do. I'm not saying you don't have feelings for him and that it won't work out to be a wonderful relationship. Be open and honest with him. Trust me I know what I am talking about. As for those who judge; how dare they. If it is family members who judge perhaps you can reassure them that you will never forget your late husband. As for the others; they have not walked a mile in your shoes. Thanks for your comments. First, rest assuered I would never remarry without a prenup. And I am NOT considering marriage at this point, we just met. I am simply enjoying spending time with someone. My dear hubby was sick for 14 months and while we had a great marriage, the last year of his life was extremely difficult on us. I know it was simply because of the chemo and the cancer, so I don't hold him responsible for any of it, but it doesn't change that fact that he was extremely difficult to be around when he was on chemo, which was every other week. I loved him and took care of him. I held my tounge and did my best to be the barrier between him and our young daughter to protect her from her Daddy's chemo wrath. His words were very cruel and hurtful at times and no matter how much I tried to take it, it ultimately changed our relationship. I know he loved me so much and would never have intentionallly hurt me, but it is what it is. I also spent 14 months greiving for him before he passed away. His death wasn't sudden. We had time to prepare. And while others say it felt awkard dating after a year or two, for me it feels natural. Maybe I am crazy. That's a tough one. It sounds like you have already been grieving for 18 months -. But I think the finality of it, even after a long illness, takes quite some time to process. I've been here at DS since November 2007, so I've seen a lot of different situations and opinions, successes and failures. I did have one friend here who after 4 months started dating and at about 6 months married the fellow. Within a few months, she realized it was a mistake - that she had moved too fast - and they were headed for divorce. You say you're not going to rush things and take it slowly and carefully, and I hope you do. Not just for your sake, but for the man you're seeing. We sometimes forget that anyone we get involved with is on the receiving end of our emotions and needs and they have their own emotions and needs. All relationships are a two-way street. If the two of you are giving equally and caring for each other based on being seen as individuals and not being compared to your lost spouse or whomever , then you may have a healthy relationship develop. But I have to say that is a challenge and a rarity so early on. I have learned that not all of life's surprises are bad surprises, and life is meant to be lived. But you should still be careful and proceed with caution. My two cents worth..... Love and Hugs, Martha I think the general rule of thumb is to mourn for a year, not only to respect the person who has died, but to give yourself time to process and heal. She probably really needs your time and attention right now as well, if her Dad was sick for a long time and just recently died. That sounds really judgmental, and I'm sorry. Most people are in a fog for the first four months or so until reality hits. I totally understand wanting the pain and loneliness to go away, and I think it's lovely that you have made a new friend. I just think it would be wise to ask him to wait a while to give you the time to catch up with everything that has happened. Good luck to you! Hugs, Amy No, you're not crazy, jojo. I saw something in your reply, though - it was only only! He was pissed, to be sure, but it also affected his personality. And he took it out on me, the only safe one he could be assured would always be there. And yeah, I bit my tongue many a time. After he died, coming to grips with this was a struggle, for many months for me. There was a lot of processing, along with a lot of anger. On my part, I may add. All I'm saying is that there are a lot of emotions to go through on your part - so i guess I'm speaking to you from a different angle, and only because I've been through it. Hugs, Marsha Marsha said what I was just about to say. Not only did Lanny's personality and attitude toward me change in the 5 months after his diagnosis but I can look back now at behaviors that I just thought were problems in our marriage and realize... He pushed me away and he pushed hard. Before diagnosis we fought and even talked about divorce. After diagnosis we held on tight to each other but that didn't mean that he wasn't difficult and downright hateful which was not his way at all. I tried to hold my tongue but that's not really my way so we did have some fights while he was sick. After he died I felt, and still do feel terribly guilty about that and wish I could take it back. Those things are a lot to process emotionally so I think that I too come from this at a different angle and have to say... Those emotions may add to the process... I'm not going to criticize but you have to understand that you may be more vulnerable right now then you think. I do believe that when someone is sick for a length of time and not expected to live, the mourning process may have already begun. I would suggest to you to take things very slowly. I mean, get to know each other first, be friends. Make no promises, no committments and have the freedom to be alone and to grieve. I think what most people here are trying to tell you is that it is very important to grieve your loss in order to move on with your life. There is a chance that if you don't do it now, it may affect you later. It is more difficult sometimes to end a relationship than to begin one. Be really smart about this and don't rush into anything. If this man really cares, he will understand and be patient. If not, you are liable to be facing heartbreak and after all you have been through, that wouldn't be a good thing. No one can tell another what is right for them. I do believe you are smart enough to think this through and maybe slow down just a bit. Either way, I wish you the best. I have to agree it may be too soon. However, we are all different people, and I do understand that your husband did give you his blessing. I also realize that you probably did alot of grieving while your husband was still alive. Do, take it slow, you maybe just looking for away to avoid the whole process of grieving. I know how hard it is to have to be alone, to live without your spouse on and on....... An upset in neurotransmitters are cause for a manic episode,...